“You will be the same person in five years as you are today except for the people you meet and the books you read.”

 – Charlie “Tremendous” Jones

Boys my Boys,

Books (and now a days blogs/podcasts/YouTube Videos) will change your life for the better. One of my many hopes for you is that you are avid readers and seekers of knowledge and wisdom.

It’s been my experience that the right book at the right time can alter the course of your life and set you on a journey toward growth and self-realization.

If you read with an open mind and an open heart, your life will improve. You’ll have a richer more meaningful existence. You’ll understand yourself, the people in your life, and the world as a whole a lot better, simply because you have chosen to read.Continue reading →


lego man, vulnerability

“To share your weakness is to make yourself vulnerable; to make yourself vulnerable is to show your strength.”

– Criss Jami

The goal of this blog is to give my sons an inside look at who I am. In order to provide them with this insiders perspective, I know I have to be as vulnerable and open as possible. Unfortunately, this does not come naturally to me.

I am not innately a ‘heart on my sleeve’ type of person. Nor would I characterize myself as guarded or defensive either; I just tend to keep to myself.

At my father’s funeral service, there wasn’t a eulogy, but rather an open microphone for those in attendance to share their thoughts or memories. The service went on for hours as people lined up to share their experiences and reflections.

It was heartwarming to hear from the many people that cared for my father, but it was a little sad to realize that they knew a version of him I had not yet gotten to know and now never would.

From everything that was said, one particular comment has always stuck out.Continue reading →

Five Lessons I Learned from my Father’s Death

“It is not so much about what life hands you, but what you do with what you get.”

– Idowu Koyenikan

lego grave, lego grief, lego funeralIn my introductory post, I shared that the origins of this blog started with my father’s death. I thought it appropriate that my follow-up post be about the lessons I learned from his passing.

I don’t want to give you the impression that this was an easy process. It wasn’t easy at all. It was painful and it took me many many years before I was able to find anything resembling a silver lining from this tragedy.

However, now nearly twenty years later I’m able to reflect back and see how his death influenced my growth and shaped my outlook. Here are just a few of the ways I was able to take this tragedy and make my life better from it.Continue reading →

Origin Story

Lego Father and SonsI love origin stories. There’s something about witnessing the beginning of something that captures me. It mixes the excitement of embarking on something new with the hope and potential a person or story may become.

Whenever I complete a TV series, I always start over from the beginning and re-watch the first few episodes, just to witness how the characters were first introduced to us or met one another. My favorite part of superhero movies is to watch them first gain their superpower, but then struggle to find the balance between power and responsibility.

Now that I’m writing my origin story, I want it to be epic. Continue reading →