Origin Story

Lego Father and SonsI love origin stories. There’s something about witnessing the beginning of something that captures me. It mixes the excitement of embarking on something new with the hope and potential a person or story may become.

Whenever I complete a TV series, I always start over from the beginning and re-watch the first few episodes, just to witness how the characters were first introduced to us or met one another. My favorite part of superhero movies is to watch them first gain their superpower, but then struggle to find the balance between power and responsibility.

Now that I’m writing my origin story, I want it to be epic. The reality is that it won’t be. For me, it is something new and exciting filled with hope and potential. But for you, it’ll read a lot more like a course syllabus, simply outlining what I hope to carry out through this blog…boring.

Background

Before I get into the mission statement of this blog, I suppose it’s only fair that I offer a bit of background. As with a lot of origin stories, this one begins with tragedy. When I was nineteen and home from college during winter break, my father had a heart attack and died. He was 48.

Fast forward ten years and I had a son of my own, and then within 18 months, I had another. I knew my father when I was a child and I knew him when I was an angsty adolescent, but I never got the opportunity to know him as an adult.

Now my intention is to live a long life, however, I can’t say it hasn’t occurred to me that my father’s fate would become my own and my fate would become my sons. While there will never be a substitute for actually getting to know my father through the adult stage of my life, if by chance my life (and subsequent death) follow a similar path, I wanted to create a place for my sons to have access to a version of me throughout their life.

Thus, this blog was born. Truthfully, it is less of a blog and more of a public (and very long) letter to my kids.

Mission Statement

My hope is that this blog outlines my values and the lessons I hope I am instilling in my boys, while at the same time revealing a bit of my personality along the way. I want my kids to read it in the years to come and find some connection to me no matter what stage of life they are at.

If others find it beneficial that is an added bonus in my mind, and the reason that I made it public. I am not an authority on anything outside of my own opinions and beliefs, some of which you may agree with and others you may not.

My hope for my kids is that they learn to think deeply about the world around them and my goal for these writings is that they challenge them to think deeper about the topics I write about. I don’t want my kids (or anyone else for that matter) to adopt my beliefs. I want them to do the painstaking work of forging their own.

Logistics

Now that I’ve outlined the conceptual side of this blog, let’s talk logistics. My goal to start out with is to write two blog posts a week. I intend to write about a variety of topics, but here are a few general themes you can expect: Personal Finance, Minimalism, Parenting, Health, and Life Lessons.

This blog is a window into my life and thoughts. I want my kids to read it and get a better understanding of who their dad was at the time of the writing; what I thought about, what I valued, and what I struggled with. I won’t commit to any specific structure, but will rather post on the things that are a present part of my life experiences.

Now that you know a little about the origins of this blog, I hope you are able to find value in it. If you’d like to know more about me or the content you can expect to find here, check out my About Page.

So it begins.

10 Comments

  1. Thank you for posting this. I am very sorry to hear about the loss of your father. I’m sure your children will enjoy getting a peak into your mind while you were raising them.

    1. Thanks for reading and I appreciate the condolences. I would have loved to have something like this of my father, so hopefully my kids end up appreciating it one day. (My apologies for the delayed response. I forgot to check my spam filter.)

  2. What an awesome gift you are giving to your boys! Hopefully you’ll live a very long life and they will be reading thoughts you had well into your senior years! My 89 year old father is a writer and although now mostly retired (they never fully retire!) I still enjoy reading articles, prefaces, reviews, etc that he has put his stamp on!

    1. Thanks Lucy! What a gift having your 89 year old father’s writings at your disposal, I can only imagine the wisdom he’s recorded over the years. I appreciate you stopping by and taking the time to comment! I love you site name (and tag line)! I’m looking forward to seeing your April Debt Elimination Update!

      1. Thank you! I do indeed feel very blessed. His driving scares the heck out of me, but I am thankful he is still able to be so independent given his advanced years.

        1. Yeah, I recently had a conversation with someone in a similar situation. I think she decided to eventually take the keys away from her own aging father. As you can imagine, it didn’t go over well, but she sleeps a lot better at night now.

  3. This is awesome! I’ve often thought about the same idea – writing for my kids – but I haven’t formalized it. It’s an inspiring idea, and it’s one I hope to incorporate more into my own writing.

    I’m sorry you had to go through the experience you did. Hearing that really makes me appreciate even more the conversations and experiences I’ve had with my own dad and other older mentors.

    Being a better dad is also on my list of goals. I have two young daughters, and it’s constantly on my mind how to pass on helpful ideas and habits. But like you said, you don’t want to do too much. They also need to have space to explore their own paths. But there’s no doubt the foundation comes from parents, and hopefully we can help lay a solid one!

    Thanks for sharing and putting your story out there!

    1. Thanks Chad. I’m really glad I found blogging. I’ve tried to write to my kids in other formats (i.e. a journal or creating an email address for them), but never wrote with consistency. Starting this blog has been great accountability to keep my thoughts flowing. They likely won’t find all of it valuable, but hopefully they’ll listen to some of it at some point in their life.

  4. I hope you live a very long and happy life. This blog is a fantastic gift to your boys. I’m enjoying reading the posts. I’ve always loved Legos and that is an added bonus!

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