I’ve cultivated a much more positive outlook than I inherited naturally. I consider myself an optimist. I’ve had to work very hard to change what was a fairly negative outlook, but the work was worth it as I am much happier as a positive and optimistic person.
But despite all of that, I have a really hard time feeling positive about Father’s Day. I know, I know, as a blogger whose blogdentity is wrapped up in being a father this makes very little sense.
I’ve always felt this way. Even as a kid, I always saw Father’s Day as an afterthought to Mother’s Day. I don’t think I’m just imagining it either. When we’d go to Church on Mother’s Day, the greeters would hand each mother a flower. Then we’d go out to brunch and another flower.
There always seemed to be pomp and circumstance surrounding Mother’s Day. Rightfully so, Mother’s deserve all of it. But there was rarely any pomp and circumstance surrounding Father’s Day.
When we were younger, my mom always did a good job celebrating my father and as my brother and I got older, we carried on the tradition. But outside of the house I rarely saw my father get acknowledged on Father’s Day.
A Made Up Holiday
I don’t mean any of this as a societal criticism. Personally I don’t think there should be a celebratory atmosphere for a made up holiday. I don’t want or need to be celebrated for being a father.
This sounds scathingly negative doesn’t it? I really don’t intend for it to be, I don’t have any negative feelings towards Father’s Day. I just don’t have much use for it.
Sure, being a father is extremely hard at times. But it is also insanely rewarding. I’ve been a father for nearly 8 years now. And for about 7 ½ of those years, I’ve had this creature that I love more than anything else smile at me. And then another one came along and shortly after he was born, I’ve had two smiling faces fill my days.
So keep your Hallmark cards and store bought trinkets. Keep your socks and ties. I don’t need them. Every single day is Father’s Day as far as I’m concerned. Nothing that can be purchased or made could possibly enhance my experience of fatherhood.
I don’t need a holiday to feel appreciated. I have two smiling faces that do that for me every day!